”Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a match. Find me a find, catch me a catch…” Those are the famous lyrics of one of the songs from “Fiddler on the Roof”. Jewish matchmaking was a very common practice, especially in the past. There would usually be a matchmaker, who would bring two people together for marriage. Usually a good match meant that the girl would find herself at a least a stable or better yet a wealthy husband. Dating to find a partner was not recognized in the past.
These days anyone can see Jewish Dating happening all of the time. It is modern now to try to find a mate by dating different individuals. Once you find the right person, then of course you would end up dating exclusively until the time comes when you can get married.
However, I believe that even though Jewish dating is more common, there are still those Jewish matchmakers around. It can be in the form of a friend, a parent, or close relative. Although these Jewish matchmakers can’t force a relationship to start or happen, they definitely have the best interest at heart for the people they want to match.
Jewish matchmaking means you that you need to consider the different aspect of each individual. They need to be matched with someone who they can share their interests with and who can support them in all endeavours. It is always good if you can also check to see the weakness and strengths of the person. It would be great if the persons’ strength can help the weakness of the other person and vice-versa. That always shows good compatibility.
Other things that you can consider in Jewish matchmaking would be the stability of each person. Can they help each other or will there be cause or reason to put one another down. Are these two people trust worthy and faithful? Would they faithful to one another? If you choose to be a Jewish matchmaker, then that means the people you are matching up are people who trust you. So do your best to see if the ones you pair together can really be the best for one another.
There are many Jewish people out there who are looking for love. Some are quite strict as to the type of person that they end up with. It is not as easy as it was before to just have the Jewish heritage as their only common ground. If you are thinking of marriage, then you want to have one that last. That is why you need to be compatible in one or another. Find someone who encourages you to become even better than you are and who can see an even bigger picture of yourself then you can.
There is that type of person out there. Don’t easily give up if you don’t seem to find him or her right off the bat. Just continue to be patient and wait and see how it all goes. In the meantime enjoy the dates that you find yourself in and learn more about yourself throughout the process!
